3. Calm Yourself
Let's go back to "intra-personal
intelligence" for a moment. Intra-personal intelligence
involves knowing oneself, being able to recognize your own
emotions, "Wait, I don't really want to fire that person. I
am just angry right now." It also means being able to exert
self-control to redirect your first emotional reaction to
fit more with your own best interests and desires.
Think about strategies to calm yourself that you can use
rather than lashing out at a co-worker or employee.
According to Goleman, and fellow psychologist, Diane Tice,
a common method for many people is to go off alone and give
themselves time to cool down. For men, this often means
going out for a drive. Our reservations are rich in places
of natural beauty where one can drive, walk or sit quietly
alone.
"Walking it off" combines two strategies for reducing
anger, exercise and going somewhere else to get away from
the source of your anger.
Important : The purpose is to calm yourself. This
is where intra-personal intelligence comes in. You should
not be driving down the back roads muttering under your
breath how that $%@! Joe found a mistake in your budget and
when you get back to the office you are going to find the
person who was responsible, skin him alive and tack his
hide outside the door of your office as a warning.
Distracting yourself is another effective strategy for
reducing anger. Read that report, business journal or grant
proposal you've had on your desk for the last week. Call
back the client who left a message this morning. When you
get home, don't sit around feeling angry about what
happened in the office and planning to make someone pay.
Watch a movie, read a book, go play pool or basketball with
some friends. Many reservations have a workout room
sponsored by the tribal college, Diabetes Fitness or other
wellness project. Turtle Mountain Community College has a
walking track in the gym, open to the public. Spirit Lake
has a Diabetes Fitness Center with treadmills, stationary
bikes and weights.
Find out the hours, use these programs yourself on your
lunch break or after work and encourage your employees to
do the same.