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Acceptance, is the final of Kubler-Ross's stages of dying and of grieving. We began this section with a quote from, On grief and grieving, and we would like to end it with two more quotes from the same book.

"We have never asked anyone.  “Have you found closure?” and found that they responded with a solid yes.  The concept refers to bringing some things to a close, like a misunderstanding, a project, of a school year.

You don’t ever bring the grief over a loved one to close. "

and

“Finding acceptance may be just having more good days than bad. As we begin to live again and enjoy our life, we often feel that in doing so, we are betraying our loved one. We can never replace what has been lost, but we can make new connections, new meaningful relationships, new interdependencies. Instead of denying our feelings, we listen to our needs; we move, we change, we grow, we evolve. We may start to reach out to others and become involved in their lives. We invest in our friendships and in our relationship with ourself. We begin to live again, but we cannot do so until we have given grief its time.”

The best advice we have read was given not by a famous author, but by Ronda Rousey whose father died when she was eight years old. The next year, a friend of hers from third grade also had her father die, in an accident, she wrote:

"The grown-ups say it will be okay after a while. They lie. It will never be okay. But after a while, it will be better. I know it doesn't seem like it right now, but it will be better."